Living with a Chronic Illness

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Although those in my life know who I am (my history, ethics, values, etc.) so I feel safe and respected and most everyone I encounter treats me the same way, on occasion I interact with someone who is clearly ignorant of what it is like to have a chronic illness – particularly one that can be invisible so much of the time.

What is interesting is when asked to explain my situation, I am interrupted and arbitrarily told I need to be positive – not to send negative thoughts into the world. These individuals become instantly agitated because they are living within a facade of ongoing and everlasting health and well-being so my bringing up illness reminds them of their fragility – something they do not want to even ponder.

The funny thing about this is that I have consistently, since the 1970s, been professing the power of having a positive attitude.  I’ve not been doing because I expect it will somehow cure me of a health issue I was born with, but because being positive changes how we see and, therefore, deal with the world.  From the mid to late 1970s I was doing a lot of television, radio, and public speaking on the subject. Not one host, call-in listener, or audience member confronted me with the idea that because of my positive message, I should be cured.  The consistent response was one of thanking me for reminding them it is possible to remain hopeful, optimistic, and proactive even when living with an incurable health condition.  And, frankly, this was the intended message.

So, for those living with a chronic illness, please be patient with those who move from love to fear when you are attempting to be honest about your situation. Do not bother attempting to validate yourself for anyone.  Do the best you are able to live your life fully with love, joy, and kindness.  We are a manifestation of what they truly fear so they are not ready to listen.  As a wise person once said, “Forgive them for they know not what they do.”

Copyright 2015 Lynn Borenius Brown

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You are always on a path – you are never lost

One of the definitions of the word “path” in Merriam-Webster is “the continuous series of positions or configurations that can be assumed in any motion or process of change by a moving or varying system”.  There is much to be discussed within these words.  However, right now I will focus on the idea of “continuous series of positions”.

Since a path is merely a series of positions by a moving system, each of the positions has its place – its value.  Change is part of the path while the system remains intact.  Configurations are allowed to exist which means we are expected to evolve; to use the varying positions as part of our forward movement.

So, recognizing we are always on a path and this path provides motion and change which brings varying configurations, we are able to feel confident that we are never lost.  We are merely evolving through the configurations required to keep us moving (growing).

Copyright 2015 Lynn Borenius Brown

Why the rainbow logo?

People have been curious as to why I use a rainbow as my logo.

Good question.

Here are my thoughts:

Rainbows occur after rain.  For me, this implies that rain is needed for the true beauty of life to be experienced.  Rain is the metaphor for life’s experiences that we tend to arbitrarily and hastily define as negative/bad/to be avoided.  Without these experiences we would like to avoid, I feel there were be very little (if no) personal growth – no movement on our life path.  It appears that most of us make needed changes in our lives only when faced with obstacles.  So, the rainbow represents the gifts we receive after working through the difficulties of an experience.  And, in Greek mythology the rainbow is viewed as a sort of messenger.  My desire is to provide some of these gifts to my readers; to be a messenger.

Rainbows are made of the colors of the spectrum.  This is important to me because I put significance on the idea of embracing all colors the world has to offer; that we need all races, ethnicities, religions, and cultures in order to fully know living and that without all of them there is now rainbow.  I also like the spiritual definition of the rainbow’s colors:

Red = vitality

Orange – creative energy

Yellow = wisdom

Green = balance

Blue = spirituality

Indigo = infinity

Violet = spiritual mastery

Rainbows are the dispersion of light.  Symbolically, light represents goodness, knowledge, and hope.  My desire is to provide all of these.

Copyright 2015 Lynn Borenius Brown

Difficult People and Situations Assist In Our Growth

We define people and situations as difficult because they are noncompliant with our current perceptions.  As a result, they make us self-conscious which causes us to become aware of our being and as a result, our thoughts and actions.

The discomfort of being in the noncompliant experience compels us to take a look at our beliefs. And in doing so, we have the opportunity to make alterations in how we look at and define the world.  It is the discrepancy that is the gift; the discomfort that compels the change.

So, when you experience a discord between what you have believed to be true and what is occurring, be sure to allow yourself to be open to the discomfort inherent in the difficulty. It may be a chance to grow.

Copyright 2014  Lynn Borenius Brown

© Lynn Borenius Brown and The Loving Path, 2014. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from this blog’s author and/or owner is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to Lynn Borenius Brown and The Loving Path with appropriate and specific direction to the original content.

Medical Procedure Preparation – Self-Hypnosis MP3

Medical Procedure Preparation

Self-Hypnosis MP3

$12 each (emailed)

Track 1 allows you the opportunity to become calm and relaxed as well as to prepare you for being physically and emotionally ready to have a medical procedure.  It addresses sleeping comfortably through the nights before the procedure; feeling secure and confident regarding the procedure; being calm, relaxed and comfortable during the procedure; being receptive to only positive thoughts, feelings, ideas and emotions expressed in your presence before, during and after the procedure; and feeling relaxed, comfortable and refreshed after the procedure.

Track 2 provides 30 minutes of relaxing music designed to allow your brain waves to slow down to the alpha brain wave state; the state of relaxed awareness that is associated with self-appreciation, optimism, calming rejuvenation and waking calmness.

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Adversity Can Be a Great Gift

We usually define “adversity” as difficulty and “gift” as endowment; something that is free.  And we are almost always surprised when confronted with adversity, somehow believing that difficulty should never come into our lives.  It is viewed as something to get rid of as quickly as possible because it is just plain bad, with no redeeming value.

However, most of us don’t grow as people while our lives are running smoothly. We just enjoy the easy ride and whatever positives (gifts) seem to come from it. Growth can be uncomfortable, difficult, and tedious so we put it aside as long as possible.

But if we are willing to deal with the difficulties with eyes, minds, and hearts open, we can learn much from these times. And it is the lessons we take from adversity that are the gifts which encourage growth in our lives.

Copyright 2014  Lynn Borenius Brown

© Lynn Borenius Brown and The Loving Path, 2014. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from this blog’s author and/or owner is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to Lynn Borenius Brown and The Loving Path with appropriate and specific direction to the original content.